Deanna began her web site, Facts about Miscarriage, as a memorial to baby Casey, miscarried when she was five months pregnant. The site has grown to include dozens of pages about miscarriage and stillbirth. This blog is a place for Deanna write new topics to add to the main site.
In addition to her angels, Deanna has two living children–Emily Faith and Elizabeth Grace. They live in Texas where Deanna works as a photographer and writer.
Baby Dust: Deanna's Miscarriage Blog 
40 comments
September 29, 2006 at 2:53 pm
MARIA
Deanna I have been on the boards for 1 year 8months. After lossing my first child at 7 weeks. Your boards have helped me out so much. I cant explain how much. I wanted to thank you.My depression had consumed my life. After finding your boards I realized I was not alone. After a month after my loss I began to try again. I follwed your plan. Got pregnant the first month of trying. Now I have a beutiful son that is 9 months. So im GLAD to say still go on the boards. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!
September 29, 2006 at 3:00 pm
Deanna
Maria–I am just glad you are here. We are all helping each other. I’m very excited to see everyone getting involved. THAT is what will make the book great.
September 29, 2006 at 10:20 pm
Violeta
I have participated in your website forum for two years now. Your website helped me find the information I needed to have a baby after having two miscarriages. It turned out that I had a thin uterine lining and needed progesterone treatment. Before I found your website, my dr. told me that she didn’t want to test me because I only had two miscarriages. I insisted on seeing a specialist after someone on your site told me that an ER helped them. Luckily I found the problem so that number three could be my beautiful daughter. I now have a seven month old girl and am so grateful to your site. The forum has been a great support to me when I couldn’t find it in my friends who were right here. In fact I lost a best friend through the process because we were both trying to conceive, I succeeded and she didn’t. Our friendship just couldn’t survive that. Many of my friends just didn’t understand my struggle, but I could always find an answer or just support on your website. Thanks so much.
September 30, 2006 at 12:58 pm
Junebuggy
Thank you so much Deanna. Thank you so so much. After the hundreds (thousands?) of lives you have already supported and done so much for through your boards, this novel is just an awesome idea. I have heard stories and situations so much worse than mine being on your boards for quite a while. But I will help in any and every way I can. Thank you for making a difference.
October 5, 2006 at 5:59 pm
Sara
I found your website by searching “bleeding after a D&C” on google. I wanted to tell you that this was the most informative website I’ve seen and I’ve looked at plenty the last two weeks. I went in for a check-up and ultrasound two weeks ago today and found out that my baby was dead, there was no heartbeat. I was crushed. I had no symptoms that would have given me a clue to this. I wasn’t able to have a D&C for a week after finding out and never had any bleeding or anything. I found it very traumatic to carry around a baby I knew was dead for that long. Especially because I still felt sick (nausea and vomiting). After the D&C I felt no sense of closure because of still no bleeding. That was what brought me to your website and I am so glad I found it!!! It is very comforting and reassuring to hear stories of others who have experienced the same thing. Thank You…Sara
November 3, 2006 at 11:02 am
fertilitytruth
Deanna,
Thanks for leaving a great comment on my blog. My baby died at 14 weeks and got more sympathu when I had a cold. Since then I’ve terminated frienships, tole them why and are setting up a website that’s will hopefully start educating people.
Anytime you want to reciprocate links just say the word honey.
Its time us women moved into the 21st Centuary and publically spoke about the intense emotional pain that miscarriage brings. Its about time we spoke out. After all education leads to change. Its not accpetable anymore to have insensitve comments being hurled at us. Its time there was a change, and damn it, I’m doing it!
http://www.fertilitytruth.wordpress.com
Angie
November 18, 2006 at 12:52 am
Sherena McMurdie
Deanna thank you for your website! I have loved reading it! You speak from your experience as well as from so many others & I learned so much! You have compassion, courage & great strength & all the other women on here too.
I recently had my 2nd m/c this year. The first was on Valentine’s Day- of all days! My sister-in-law Renee’ & I were both excited to be due the first week of Oct. It was very disappointing because I had been wanting to have another baby for quite some time & was finally pregnant. (It always seems to take my husband longer to convince than me too- I always want another baby about 9 months after I’ve just had one. – So really he’s just being wise)
My sister Tiffany had just had a baby the day before.
We went to see her baby the same day I had my miscarriage & surprisingly I was okay. Probably because my sweet daughter, Sunnee who is seven yrs. old said, “It’s okay Momma, we still have a baby in the family.”
November 18, 2006 at 1:13 am
Sherena McMurdie
Deanna thank you for your website! I have loved reading it! You speak from your experience as well as from so many others & I learned so much! You have compassion, courage & great strength.
I recently had my 2nd m/c this year. The first was on Valentine’s Day- of all days! My sister-in-law Renee’ & I were both excited to be due the first week of Oct. It was very disappointing because I had been wanting to have another baby for quite some time & was finally pregnant. (It always seems to take my husband longer to convince than me too- I always want another baby about 9 months after I’ve just had one.)
My sister Tiffany had just had a baby the day before.
We went to see her baby the same day I had my miscarriage & surprisingly I was okay. Probably because my sweet daughter, Sunnee who is seven yrs. old said, “It’s okay Momma, we still have a baby in the family.”
Six months later I was pregnat again & this time another sister-in-law, Erica & I were both due at the beginning of May. I was excited again & didn’t even think I’d miscarry again, thinking the last one was just a fluke. I’d already had 4 great pregnancies & wasn’t worried.
But at 10 wks. I started spotting & immediately felt it was happening again. I almost didn’t believe it. It was 2 days before the first baby would’ve been born.
My mother-in-law insisted I go into the Dr’s office. She took my 2 little boys & I went in for an ultrasound. Just 2 weeks before that at 8 wks. we saw on an ultrasound with the little heartbeat & I was excited. But this time they couldn’t find anything. There was just a little mound there. I cried & cried.
I am so grateful for the support of my husband & family & church family & the many prayers. It lightened the burden to have so many who cared. My husband’s sister almost died due to an infection from her m/c & she has been a great friend through it.
So far the plan is to take prometrium the next time around. I’m 36 & the Dr. thinks maybe I’m not producing enough. We’ll see. I’ll just keep exercising, eating well, reading my scriptures, keeping a journal & enjoying where I’m at- with many blessings!
I am grateful too, to know that there is a plan for us. He strenghthens us. That Heavenly Father loves us & is aware of each us. Maybe I’ll have more & maybe not. I feel like there’s more to come. But if not, I will be grateful for my daughter & 3 sons.
About a week after the 2nd m/c I had a neat experience which gave me great comfort & peace. I pictured myself in a living room holding my baby on the couch. Then a light appeared in the room & standing in the doorway was the Savior, I gave him my little one & he just held him safe & secure in His arms. So whenever I wonder & ask why & how… I just picture that, & know that everything is okay! Families are forever! We will be with our loved ones after this life. I trust in Him & know that everything will be all right.
Sherena
December 24, 2006 at 9:26 pm
Hege
Hi I recently lost my baby at 14 weeks and it was a big shock to me.we have been trying so long and i finally got pregnant.I feel guilty and my fault.I have had problems for awhile and been to doctor many times and they said it was a infection or normal disscharge.When the pain and cramps started I went home and rested and it went away.Went to doctor next day and said it was just legament stretching.Next night I had them again,this time I didnt leave work(work third shift) I started bleeding again which I have done before too.When I went to doctor next day I found out I had dilated and nothing they could do.I feel so guilty for not going home that night and keep thinking what ifs.I know it could have been a chance that they could have stopped it completley but also for a little while or not at all.what is eating me alive is the what ifs.I feel like I couuld have done more.Is it my fault.Should my doctor have some blame in this.I dont know what to do withxmyself,I cant stop thinking about it and i cant really eat cause I feel so guilty.I am trying very hard to be patient and give my 2 kids a good christmas but having a hard time with it.Please can somone talk to me.Hubby being supportive and said that nothing I did could have changed things,nature took it course
hege
December 25, 2006 at 1:13 pm
Deanna
It sounds as though an infection got into the lining and caused premature labor. You might also have a condition called an incompetent cervix, which is not strong enough to hold the cervix closed once the baby gets bigger. Both of these things can be treated so as not to affect a future pregnancy.
Make sure you love your doctor and feel very confident in him/her. It’s important you feel very secure with your care as you embark on another pregnancy. But these things happen through no one’s fault. It happens all the time, to so many mothers excited about their baby coming end up losing what they wanted most.
It’s not your fault at all.
January 5, 2007 at 12:25 am
daisy
I;ve recently had my second miscarriage at 18 weeks. the first one of course was a hard obstacle for me to surpass. but I did it only to come to find I had PCOS, a condition that rarely lets me ovulate . so it took my husband and I 4 years of trying to conceive until finally in aug. of 06 we did it. I was at a high risk pregnancy because of spotting, sometimes bright reddish and sometimes brownish. I also for the most part had abdominal cramping which my doctor said was o.k. So by my 4th month he said I wasn’t considered high risk(which I wasn’t pleased about but I didn’t speak up, I trusted him).Well, At 18 weeks I started having severe abdominal cramping that lasted a whole day and by the the nighttime it became unbearable, I decided to not go to the er because my doctor would always say that everything I felt was normal.Well, little that I had known that what I was experiencing was premature labor.all of a sudden I felt what i thought was a bowel movement, then i felt something being pushed down by my vagina. I freaked I thought it was my baby and I just lost it. I was rushed to the hospital where the er physician did a pelvic exam and as he did that, he was applying pressure with his fngers, and at that moment I felt my water break. they immediately sent me for an ultrasound and told me that I was going to deliver my 18th week old baby whose heart was beating strong but would never make it. I was completely devastated. my Q’s are these, could it have been possible that the er physiscian caused my water to break? could my miscarriage have been avoided, since they are now saying it was an incompetent cervix, the baby was perfectly fine, there was no infection, and the placenta was fine? and did my baby girl die as soon as she was born or is something done to the baby before being completley out because I noticed little wounds on my baby’s head that just didn’t seem right? It is so hard to find closure to all this with so many thoughts and what ifs in my head. I’m loosing sleep over all this, right now it just seems like so much to bear.But so far the only thing that gets me going is knowing that I got to hold my precious little Ashley and admist this bad experience holding her was the best thing that has ever happaned to me. We laid her down to rest on dec.26, 2006. we shouldn’t give up, I know I haven’t. We should let these experiences make us stronger. Some days will be though and some will be a little better. What helps me is knowing that I’m not alone and that us women are strong and we can get through this.
January 31, 2007 at 12:53 am
Nikkole Guilfoil
do you have a book out about helping with miscarriages? If so what is the name and where can you purchase it at? Thanks
January 31, 2007 at 3:38 pm
Deanna
Mine isn’t published yet! Just finished the draft and am beginning to shop it around.
You can find helpful books that I’ve read and can recommend at http://www.pregnancyloss.info/resources.htm
March 18, 2007 at 8:36 am
DEANA
I just had my 2nd M/c 2 days ago. I had just found our I was pregnant on Wednesday March 14 and started bleeding on March 16. My husband is in Japan for work so I am an emotional wreck. I have 3 healthy boys ,but I desperatly want another child. I had my 1st M/c on July 30, 2006. It was a blighted ovum i was 9 weeks pregnant but the baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks without me knowing it. I had just told everyone family and our churh, and friends. It was devestating to tell everyone and be so happy and then have your whole world drop out from under you. I had just felt like I was moving on about a month ago when my due date passed from the 1st m/c and then I found out I was pregnnt again I couldn’t wait to tell my husband when he returned from Japan instead I had to call him in tears and tell him I was probably losing this baby too. I feel so hopeless and sad and fell i may never have another baby. Does anyone have any advice or maybe have ideas of how to prevent it from happening again?/ Thanks for any advice i can get
March 19, 2007 at 6:11 pm
Lorraine
I was just told today that I may have my second m/c. I had my first in november of 2006. We were looking forward to our very first child. Today, I was told the baby has stopped growing and a D&C needed to be done. I am holding on to hope and God. I constantly speak to my baby and ask him or her not to do this to me. I asked to wait another week and I am preparing my heart for this loss again. I know there is hope and I need to find the purpose behind this.
March 20, 2007 at 8:05 am
Deanna
Miscarriage is so hard, and Deana, a second miscarriage when your husband is so far away–it’s devastating.
The most important thing is to find a doctor you love and trust, who will lead you through the testing process, and make you feel confident to try again. Even with all the technology and interventions we have, your relationship with your doctor is the single most important factor in succeeding at a pregnancy after multiple losses.
Amd Lorraine–yes, it is so normal to speak to your baby. Mine has been gone almost nine years now, and I still talk to him, all the time. Sometimes the purpose for what happened is not laid out right away. I had no idea my miscarriage would lead to all of this!
March 29, 2007 at 7:45 am
Angie
Deanna, I want to thank you for this website! I love reading it almost weekly. You speak for so many others & gives others a voice. You’re compassion, courage & great strength are an inspiration to other women.
April 3, 2007 at 1:23 am
music man
🙂
April 6, 2007 at 5:52 pm
Coral
I cannot tell you how awesome it is to find a living-breathing site about this topic! I still remember the doctors telling me that I had ‘bad luck. A Mother never forgets that, even if I was never able to hold more than a dream of my baby. It is wonderful to read of the success and hardships that so many women have gone through. Not that I thrive on someone else’s misery…but that I am not alone.
God’s blessings to you a thousand fold!
Coral
April 22, 2007 at 4:28 pm
Alex
Thank You
April 25, 2007 at 10:25 pm
Bernadette
Hello- my husband and I went for our first ultrasound yesterday for our second child, only to find out that there was no heartbeat. I am devastated. Naturally, I did not believe the technician and am still in shock. I asked for another ultrasound, which we will be getting tomorrow, but immediately after that I have a scheduled D/C should the results be the same. Having never been through this before, it is very comforting to read your extremely informative website and see that I am not alone. I came home from the office visit yesterday and looked into my 4 year old daughter’s eyes and thought, “how lucky we are already to have such a beautiful child” and tried to focus my energy into being grateful rather than being so sad. But it is so, so difficult. I had visions of a strong, healthy baby ( who doesn’t?) and dreamed about a future with a new addition to the family. Now I sit here, on-line and alone, crying and grieving over a baby that was not meant to be. How can I even think that we could ever be pregnant again, and with what hope for a healthy baby? I grieve with all of you that have ever lost a baby, and thank you, Deanna, for being here and allowing me to learn more about miscarriages and how I am not alone. Thank you.
May 11, 2007 at 1:56 am
Emma Sheridan
I was glad to have stumbled upon your page…Although I have been experiencing one problem- have you found that there is a servere lack of support and websites out there for teenage mothers ( I lost Lily at ten weeks into my pregnancy due to miscarriage). It is had enough to still be dealing with the raw grief and pain of my daughter’s death, only to find that there are virtually no websites specifically for teenage mums like myself.
I did however find your website a huge help and an uplifing place to find hope. Thankyou for reminging me that I am not alone.
All the best for your future to all those who read this…
June 1, 2007 at 9:28 am
Amy
Thank you so much for this website. It is one of the most well-informed ones I have come across as far as what to expect and in validating my feelings of loss. I am in the middle of my third m/c, and while I do have 2 healthy children, I feel like I am drowning in sorrow at the loss of this 3rd child. My husband keeps telling me that I need to focus on the children I have and not the ones I don’t – it was nice to see that his comments are his way of trying to “fix” it and make it better. I was accusing him of being insensitive to my feelings, and now I see that we are just grieving differently. Thank you, Deanna, for sharing your story and for helping so many of us to cope. There seems to be an unspoken stigma attached with miscarriage. No one wants to talk about it, although it is so relatively common. I wonder why this is? There are so many of us struggling with this heartbreak and yet it is hushed up and treated like a cold or flu (once the symptoms are gone, you should be completely over it).
Thank you for showing me I am not alone, and it is OK to mourn this loss.
June 1, 2007 at 11:58 pm
tif
I cannot tell you how heartbreaking it is to be 40 and 6 years past my miscarriage, and still no living child. I have no hope left and will not adopt. I do not know ANYONE in my same situation – everyone has some reconciliation of having a child. This really sucks.
June 7, 2007 at 6:45 pm
laura
Deanna thanks so much for this website i had a m/c 12/14/2006 at 16 1/2 weeks it was my first baby me and my boyfriend was so excited he had already started buying things for the baby. one morning i woke up to blood and i was cramping the night before but i thought it was jst the baby growing i went to the hospital and they told me my cervix was wide open theres nothing they can do i was having a miscarriage. i blamed myself for a long time thinking if i would have gone to the hospital the night before maybe i could have saved my baby by sewing up my cervix. but being on your website i realize that if it was going to happen theres nothing i or anyone could have done. its nice to know that your not the only one who goes through this even thou you know your not but too read other stories just helps you to feel a little better to know that others understand what your going through. But i am trying your plan this month and i pray that it works because i am so ready to be a mom. Thanks so much deanna and good luck to everyone who is trying again god will bless you!!
June 8, 2007 at 1:40 pm
Karena
I was 5 months pregnant when I lost my little angel. I had a miscarriage too & I am still greaving the loss almost a year later. Your sight has given me new knowledge and is a great support to women who have lost their children. Thank you.
June 24, 2007 at 10:22 am
Stacey
Thank you for sharing you story and having so much information which is easy to understand on your website. I am not in the same position as many who have written but I feel the pain of loss. My husband and I have been trying to have children for 6 years and I am now 37. We have both been through so much and finally had to go through with IVF. It is very expensive and people can not understand the amount of hope and faith you have hoping for a blessed angel to be given to you. We found out after the transfer that it took and I would be having our baby! We were so happy. My hCG levels were being monitored and started so strong. Than I got a call that they didn’t increase as hoped and the doctors office said they wanted to check it again and there was possiblity of concern. The next test 2 days later showed they had decreased by 2. My heart broke and right now I await another test that will tell me 100% that I have lost it. Now I wait and hope they are wrong-so many tears and knowing it my heart they are not. Family doesn’t understand so it is great to see understanding from others on your website. Thanks you.
June 26, 2007 at 10:17 am
Nicole
Thank you. Although these words aren’t strong enough because how do you thank someone who finally took all the cold medical information on a most emotional topic and made it acessible and human? I can’t tell you how refreshing it is to read that it’s ok to walk away from the mean comments or to not be obligated to attend a shower as part of the “healing process”. Never mind enduring the endless chatter and comparisons amongst girlfriends who are expecting – and who have long forgotten that you were once there too, or that Mothers Day is not only for those who have children running around, but for us, who need to remember. Finally, to know that the anger and resentment is normal and of course guilt would be associated with it all. Finally.
Thank you.
(Hun, as I write this, “Here Comes The Sun” is playing…)
June 28, 2007 at 6:31 am
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June 29, 2007 at 11:46 am
Mom in Louisville
Thank you for this wonderfule site. I learned at my 12 week ultrasound the baby had died at 8 weeks but for 4 weeks I did not even know I was carrying around a dead fetus. The shock was horrible and loss even worse. This site has been very comforting in many ways – from learning how “normal” my feelings are to answering my questions like “when will my next period come?” or “when can we try again?”
Thanks for this wonderful site.
July 26, 2007 at 4:34 pm
Sheila
I found your website and blog about a week ago when googling progesterone. We have four healthy, living children (10, 8, 5, and 2), and have lost three children during pregnancy (at 12 weeks, almost 8 weeks, and almost 10 weeks). After the third one, in April this year, they finally did testing, etc., and found absolutely nothing. In contrast to so many of the comments I read (it took me a week, but I read every single blog entry and comment…), my babies were healthy right up to birth. At the moment I’m hoping I’m pregnant and terrified that I might be.
Cooincidentally, I was given a book yesterday (that I finished reading this morning) called “Shaming the Strong”, by Sarah Williams, about a mother who is told at 20 weeks that her baby has no chance of life. She carries the baby nearly to term anyway, and it’s a beautiful story of the whole family loving the baby they know will die (and does die, shortly before birth).
I’m not sure why I’m writing here. So many times when reading the blog and comments, I wanted to say “Me too” or “No, my experience was totally different!” I guess the main thing was to mention the book I just read, and to thank you for your informative, compassionate, and comforting site.
Thank you.
July 30, 2007 at 12:26 pm
Angela
I had my second missed mc and D&C this past tuesday the 24th. My first was in March and your website gave me empathy for my loss and hope for my future. My husband and I are now heartbroken once again. I feel that this website is the only place I am safe from well meaning but out of place comments, pregnant friends who are due around both of my due dates, and pregnant friend who are so excited and joyful that they don’t realize I am not in a place right now to celebrate with them. I just don’t want to see their new stroller right now and i may not want to hold their new baby for several weeks. This is so hard for one on my preg friends to understand. Your advice has made me free from having to pretend that i’m okay. I feel like you have given me permission to gently tell my friends and family that “no, I am not okay right now and I do not have to pretend that I am by going to baby showers.” Without your site and our faith in God that he will bless us with children we would be so lost. Thank you for everything you have done for me and for so many other women through your website. My doctor is now doing testing and i am hoping for results that will help me to carry a child to term.
August 5, 2007 at 11:26 pm
Karli Page
Hi Deanna,
I came across your site like many other teens have. Im so happy for you and your two girls. They are beautiful. I wish you the best.
I also had a question to ask you. I read the ways on how to cope and all, very interesting… But I was just wondering. Is it normal to break down and just cry and feel bad and everything about the miscarriage like about 7 months later? Is that normal to still feel this way?
Thank you!
Karli P
August 6, 2007 at 7:31 am
Deanna
Oh yes, it is very normal. Even now, nine years out, it can still happen to me. I think certain events in your life, or songs, or news, or even just internal shifts like a hormone fluctuation, can serve as a trigger. I think these triggers will happen throughout your life, maybe coming farther and farther apart, and perhaps with varying intensity, but they won’t ever go completely away.
August 13, 2007 at 11:18 am
Erika
I was wondering what happened the forum? I haven’t been able to get to it for a few days. It is such a great part of your site. It has really helped me get through some tough times.
August 20, 2007 at 1:22 pm
Lee
A few weeks ago I went into premature labor at 5 in a 1/2 months (I was carrying twins and was my 1st pregnancy) The babies were born and they both were beautiful.. But they told me that my babies were to young and wont survive. So I held them while they past away.. No one can tell me why it happened. I went to all my dr. appts and ultrasound appts. they all kept telling me that both me and my boys were healthy and great.. But all of a sudden one day this horrible thing happen. We had their room ready for them and we had matching clothes. But we dont have them.. The day after delivering my boys I can home from the hospital and had to make funeral arrangements for them.
I’m sooo scared to try to have another child. Apperently this just happens, so how can I feel secure trying again when this might happen again.. I couldn’t take losing another baby.. And I also wouldn’t want to let myself prepare for another baby to come home fear of losing that baby too.
August 21, 2007 at 2:49 pm
Rachael
Hi there i jsut wanted to thank you for your site. I am really freaking out at the moment as i am nine weeks pregnant and have started to bleed brown again. I have two children and suffered a miscarrage last year at about week 7. I am hopeful that this is just because it is due my period and of scarring on my uterus from previous c-sections. I wish i had found your site last year it would have been very helpful then. I am just praying that this is all it is as this will be my last chance for another baby. I dont feel as freaked out now which is good. all the other sites i look at say that any bleeding and cramping you will lose baby and yours is the only one that gives me a bit of hope. I also have hope becuase i saw that heartbeat a few weeks ago and i am on asprine which apartently doctors are useing to help women keep their babys.
thanks again
August 27, 2007 at 5:23 pm
Erin Hammer
On Aug 18th 2007 I had the worst thing happen to me, I went into premature labour at 22 weeks and 4 days. 5 weeks before this I had a large amount of bleeding. All the doctors said everything was fine and the ultra sound came back normal. My beautiful baby girl Ivy was born at 5:44am after 31 hours of labour and lived for an hour and half. She passed in my arms. This was my second pregnancy, I have another daughter who will be 3 in January. My pregnancy with her was great but she was born 4 weeks early, tho she was very healthy and weighed 6lbs 10oz. My daughter wasn’t even gone for an hour and people were asking me about the funeral. I have never felt pain like this before and no one can seem to give me answers. Now I worry will this happen again? I guess I am wondering how will I get through this.
September 6, 2007 at 7:35 am
yasmin
hi on the 17th of august being nearly 18weeks pregnant i started bleeding got to the scan the day after to find no heartbeat i went in on the monday to deliver my baby the best thing i did was seeing how perfect he was, we have had a cremation it was absolutaly upsetting what we went through,the hospital staff was so helpfull and understanding i have 4 other children bet it hurts so much i feel so empty it is so amazing to see that so many people have been through samilier things like me i just took it for granted that me and my baby would be fine everybody said you are lucky for the four we have got i know that but it does not make up for little harry who we have lost,i myself want a few more children but i am scared of all this happening again but i will try again even if their is a bit of hope,but reading all the comments it does not look good as a lot of people seem to have had more than one miscarrage i would love to know why but i will never know.thankyou it makes it so much easier knowing you are not the only one and reading everybody elses does help even though it is sad but time will be a healer i am told even though the memory of our little babie will always be with us.
September 11, 2007 at 3:25 pm
Erin Hammer
I have a question, If anyone can answer it for me. How come everyone keeps calling what happened to me a miscarriage? I delivered my baby girl Ivy at 22 weeks and 4 days. She was breathing when she was born and lived for an hour and half. That is not a miscarriage. Yet everyone keeps refering to it as one. I believe that if you deliver a baby it is not a miscarriage. I had a baby tho she didn’t live long I still gave birth to a breathing child. Can any one out there please explain this to me?